Telling Your Story - Donors
It's important that donor families are able to share with their children the story of their family's embryo donation from an early age, and these storybooks can help you do this. Donor Conception Network in the UK is an excellent source of resources for donors and recipients alike.
'Ready Made Cupcake: All mixed up' by Whitney Williams
This short and sweet book is a simple story of what happens when two cupcakes -'Mr and Mrs Cupcake'- can't make baby cupcakes, and need people to donate cupcake mix to them.
This book might be a helpful way to start or continue discussions around donation of embryos with pre-school and early-primary aged chidren. Incuded in the story is the process of seeking a donation, and about how donations are generous gifts. There is humour and love within the illustrations, and it is a very non threatening way to raise these issues with children. While this is written for donor conceived children and their recipient families, it could equally be used by donor families to introduce concepts to their children.
'Our Story, Our Gift: How we became Embryo Donors' by Donor Conception Network UK
Written from the parents' perspective, this is a story of a known donation and the sense of pride the parents feel.
The book talks about the decision to donate embryos to a family unable to conceive, and starts with the parents needing help from a doctor to have their child.
With only a slight suggestion of family diversity or surrogacy, this story talks to a ‘typical’ family makeup both through words and illustrations.
Aimed at children 3+, this book uses factual language such as egg, sperm and uterus.
'Zak’s Safari' by Christy Tyner
Zak's Safari talks about both donor conception and family diversity.
The book opens with discussion tips for families when talking to children about donor conception.
Written from the child’s perspective, this book takes you on a journey of how Zak’s 2 Mums met, and what they needed to make a baby. As we often see, this book starts by explaining how normal conception works (the egg from the lady with the sperm of the man). Where there is no sperm in the relationship, the Mums use a sperm donor via a sperm bank.
Aimed at children aged 5-8 years old, this book is clear and factual, addressing different ways to create a family as well as DNA and its impact on appearance. It’s a helpful way to discuss family diversity and donor conception for parents who feel comfortable using the language of egg and sperm with young children.